Why Stay At Home Mom's are Good for Kids

“Children are a gift of God and the fruit of the womb is His reward.”

“Children were a gift in the days of the agriculture based society because more children meant more laborers. That is not true in today’s technological age.” Modern Christian philosophy.

Modern Christian philosophy says, in other words, that this scripture should have read “Children are a gift of God until the industrial revolution. Then they became a curse.” 

Does this sound right to you? It doesn’t to me. I believe children always have been a special gift and always will be. God clearly states in His word that He opens and closes the womb. 



Many say that this can not be true because single moms and abusive parents have children and God wouldn’t allow that. 

Hmmm. “God wouldn’t allow that,” huh? Then He has no control? He puts people into and out of political offices, He causes entire countries to flourish or fail. He controls the weather. He can raise the dead. But He can’t control who does and doesn’t have babies? 

The problem is that we in our arrogance have decided that babies are curses except in the best of circumstances. We assume that because we can’t see any good coming from a thirteen year old unwed mother giving birth that there couldn’t possibly be any good. 

The problem is that we can’t see the future. That very baby starting off with the “worst of circumstances” might grow to be the only man with enough grit to stand up to evil in some time or place. He might be the next John Wesley (17^th out of 19 children in a poor pastor’s house) or the man that stops the mugger from killing the little old lady. She might be the woman that grows up determined to provide the best love in the world for her five children. We don’t know.

Babies seem to be a curse to us because we make them to be. ANY blessing can be turned into a curse if you try hard enough. We have all heard of people winning the lottery and being broke and declaring bankruptcy within five years. Humans are quite good at this.

11 ways to turn God’s blessings into a curse.

1.            Get mommy a career so she can resent any time her kids distract her from the “real” world.

2.            Deliver your babies in a hospital. Just the atmosphere is so sterile and unnatural that it makes you want to avoid going there at all costs (high risk pregnancies should of course, consult their doctors advice. It is the problem cases that we need medical care for, not your normal low risk pregnancy)

3.            Stick your kid in daycare as soon as possible so they can’t possibly bond with anyone and learn trust and security.

4.            Send your kids to government school so they can’t learn your values or become more attached to you than to their peers.

5.            Buy you children every latest do-dad, beginning before they are born. You want to make sure they think they have to have what everyone else does.  And the fastest way to make something into a curse is to hit the pocket book.

6.            Dress your children in fashionable clothing. Looking like everyone else makes them think like everyone else, encourage rebellion and will cost you thousands of dollars to boot.

7.            Set them in front of the TV every waking moment. This warps the brain and molds attitudes into the image of the Hollywood snobs.

8.            Never teach them to obey, use manners, or control themselves. Then you won’t be able to stand being in the same room.

9.            Don’t teach them to work so you can be their slave.

10.         Make sure you tell everyone you meet what awful kids you have and how awful parenthood is. This will reinforce the sentiment in your brain.

11.         Don’t love your mate. You must make sure your children have no examples of love to confuse them.

12 ways to turn a curse into a blessing.

1.            Mommy determines that caring for her children IS her career, and strives to do the best job possible at it.

2.            Deliver your babies at home (if health permits). Pregnancy is not an illness. The normal atmosphere of the home reduces stress and makes the whole event more enjoyable.And many studies say it's safer to boot.

3.            Keep your children at home with you. This promotes bonding and security in little minds.

4.            Teach your children yourself. This gives you the opportunity to teach them your values as well as the added bonus of learning all the neat things you have always wanted to learn and never had the chance before.

5.            Give them very little time with their peers. You want them dependent on their family not other little kids.

6.            Provide them with plenty of siblings. Far more entertaining than toys and better for them.

7.            Teach them to be discerning of what things are needs, what are wants and what are desires. Supply all their needs, some of their wants and a few desires.

8.            Buy second hand or low cost clothes. Actively teach them not to follow the crowd.

9.            Do not let them watch much TV. Teach them to serve others and entertain themselves instead.

10.         Teach them to obey, use manners, and control themselves. Then everyone will love being in the same room with them.

11.         Give them chores to do, gradually teaching them to run a household. This gives them a work ethic and relieves your work burden.

12.         Make sure you tell everyone you meet what wonderful, beautiful, brilliant kids you have and how wonderful parenthood is. This will reinforce it in your brain.

13.         Love your mate. If you do nothing else, this will make a vast difference in their lives.

I think the major cause of the rise in child abuse in the last couple of decades is that so many of us were raised in two child homes, then squirreled away into classrooms filled with people our own age. We have never really been around small children and have no idea how to treat them or what to expect. Many parents don’t know you can expect to tell a two year old to do something and they will do it if you have taught them how.  

I can see the difference between my daughter and I, already, even though she is only thirteen. When they first handed her to me in the hospital, I said “Hey! I’m a mommy. Now what?” I didn’t have a clue what to do with this new little person. Subsequently I made many mistakes due entirely to the fact that I didn’t know anything about little kids.

My oldest, however, already knows how to hold a baby, play with a toddle, comfort a preschooler. She knows what to expect from different children of different ages. She is going to be a far better mommy than I ever was.